How to stay paralyzed by fear of abandonment

In Eight Easy Steps there's some of the lines I can relate to and others I can't. This happens to be in the first category.
In the past I've had relationships where I mistakingly though that doing nothing was better than doing something wrong. I guess you could say that I was paralyzed by fear of abandonment. I guess I was afraid that if I did/said something they didn't approve of, they would leave me. The ironic part is that the persons I speak of wasn't even really in my life and I never truly cared for any of them, so why I was afraid of abandonment I'm not sure. Maybe it had something to do with me being insecure. Of course the end result often was that I had absolutely nothing to say and ended up being a rather boring person to be around with almost no opinions. Not a very smart move.
Well, I can't be completely sure it'll never happen again but it's a thing I hope I've left buried in the past. I've come to the conclusion that I'm me on good and evil and that I won't let anybody change that. If they don't like me for who I am, I'm sure I can find other people who will.